One of the breakthrough insights I had during the recent PPP experience was around the role of the emotion of shame. This insight applies also to fear and anger (Enneagram enthusiastics will recognize these three emotions as corresponding to the heart, head, and body triads respectively.)
I never knew what to do with the feeling of shame. I didn’t know how to go past it or through it. Or into it or under it. My whole PPP list had a theme of shame and it was overwhelming at times. But I diligently worked item by item and I had a breakthrough insight.
I experienced very clearly how shame is a defense mechanism that protects the vulnerable part of us – shame distracts us from having to feel a very deep grief and sense of loss.
Once I saw this, the path became clear – keep tapping! The depth of emotion that was under the shame truly surprised me. A very intense grief and loss. These tappings were some of the most cathartic of my tapping history.
So I invite you to ask yourself which of the core emotions is your defense mechanism: anger, fear, or shame? What areas in your life do you feel ashamed about? Are you willing to do some tapping on these areas? I invite you to explore this.
