I've long been a student of different systems: personality systems, personal growth systems, nutrition and fitness systems, health systems - you get the idea.  I feel like I'm always looking for something.  I wonder if it's the search I enjoy or if I really am looking for something.  I sometimes fault myself for being naive and thinking that things should feel better.  Why can't I just suck it up and enjoy things the way they are?

Why Guilt Is Not A Four Letter Word: Finding the I in Guilt

In today's Law of Attraction craze/phase, folks sometimes think that guilt is a four letter word - something to be avoided and gotten rid of. I definitely don't advise staying stuck in an energy of guilt but there is often a nugget of wisdom to be found in our guilt. The trick is to distinguish between different types of guilt.

• Our inner guidance wanting to be heard
• A hidden conflict between our actions and our values that is asking for our attention
• Outside influences and messages that we've unknowingly absorbed but truly aren't ours and can be discarded
• A taking on of guilt within a system when it truly belongs to another person

With an understanding of the different roles and parts of guilt, we can more effectively use tapping to clear guilt.

Inner Guidance Waiting to Be Heard

this blog originally appeared at thesagemama.com

Today we had an another appointment for my 8 year old son. In his limited lifetime he's been to: Speech Therapy, Sensory Integration Therapy, Cranial Sacral Therapists, chiropractors, energy workers, homeopaths, and intuitive healers. That's quite a lot for one little boy. We stopped all those modalities except for homeopathy, energy workers, and intuitive healers. I just couldn't keep up with everything recommended and I didn't think he needs everything the experts recommend.

I'm pretty alternative with our healthcare choices. My son has changed radically using homeopathy, EFT and other energy work. His violent outbursts have subsided, his short sleep cycles and general grumpiness are gone, occasionally popping up to remind me to pay attention to what needs to be cleared.

It's a constant struggle - do I accept that he'll grow into skills that most other kids his age (and younger) have, or do I get him extra help? What help do I get?

After a disastrous visit from my family where the lack of progress in his reading was pointed out to me, I struggled to sort out the difference between my maternal instinct and outside criticism. I realized that while my maternal alarm was sounding, it was misdirected at teaching him to read.