There is an immense family loyalty and love that shows up in our behavior -- the system desires to be whole and each of us will do our part to illuminate that wholeness. When we start to look at "undesirable" behavior and see the underlying love that is there, everything changes. When we can look at the family secrets with love, the family system transforms. When we can include those who have been excluded, the energy of love begins to flow freely. When we can accept our family's fate with love and honor and respect and see the nobility of the past but not despair in the pain, we open ourselves up to taking our rightful place as the descendant of our ancestors. When we can accept and thank our parents for giving us the one gift that no one else can - the gift of life, we step more fully into who we are.

My current experience of Richard Rudd's work with the Gene Keys is all about going into the shadows and finding the gifts.  Our work with the family matrix is built on the very same premise - going into the shadows of our families and finding the gifts.  

So with thanks for our families,

Deborah

Hello friends,

Below is a powerful tapping script that comes from my work with the family matrix and EFT.  Please do leave questions and comments -- it's very useful to me and others ...

I invite you to expand your concept of family and home for just a bit and see how our hearts still carry our history of many generations .... 

When we choose to leave

The U.S. is known for being somewhat mobile – folks move around the countryfor work, for jobs, to go to school, to follow their dreams, or to find a better life.  The unspoken price of moving around is leaving our families.   In fact, if you look at the energy of the U.S. as a whole,we all left someplace to come here. Whether our parents, ourgrandparents, or generations before, we chose, or were forced to leave, our homeland.

This hidden loss of our homeland can show up in our lives today as an entanglement – basically that means that part of ourenergy is still tied to our ancestor’s homeland and until we can see and name and feel and accept that loss and connection, we won’t fullyfind our places here.

this blog originally appeared at thesagemama.com

Each of us have many aspects to us. One part of us is the cool, calm, competent adult. One part of us is the playful, energetic child. One part of us is the wounded, wanting to be loved child. One part of us is the wise, complete soulful voice. There are many more parts and depending on our own development, some parts are more hidden than others.

I recently was feeling out of sorts and anxious. I wasn't able to connect and re-center so I talked with one of my coaches. What we discovered is that the desperate part of me (which was a very young part of me) was trying to run things. The desperate part of me was getting frustrated and irritated with my children. And no wonder, the desperate part of me was a 7 year old. Imagine a 7 year old trying to run a household and manage three children -- it doesn't work.

As soon as I got that image of me as a youngster trying to make things work, I relaxed. I was able to see that I have choices as to what part of me I bring out today. So now when I get reactive with my children, I recognize that a part of me needs support and recognition. Once I acknowledge that part of me, I can go back to my mother/adult role and be more present in the moment.

The actual process I follow is to consider and write out the answers to the following questions: