I’ve always thought the timing of making New Year’s resolutions has been wrong, too rushed, and just not in synch with nature.   It definitely is not in synch with my internal timing and all the emails I get from other coaches asking me to set goals really irk me!  I personally use the entire month of January to reflect and get clarity and I just discovered that there’s a systemic reason for this. From a human design perspective, the New Year doesn’t begin until later in January.  Sort of cool that the internal time table I was already following is also a cosmic time table!  (See closing the door at http://www.jovianarchive.com/site/site.html)

The rush to make resolutions can actually rob us of a powerful reflection and intention setting process. Now is the time to gently reflect on this past year, to sink into the emotions of both joy of a life on track and perhaps even despair of a life not meeting our expectations.   But don’t run from this joy or this despair – allow the journey into the feelings to guide you to what is important.  Be willing to explore the shame of goals unmet to find the deep desire underneath those goals.  Be willing to let go of facades and others’ expectations and listen to what’s deep inside of you.

And then your deep desires can bubble up from inside of you, the commitment can build, the excitement of what is possible can ignite you, and you’ll find extreme clarity about what’s worth spending your time on, your energy on, your life on!

So let’s consider a few questions:

Looking at this past year, what have you done, become, let go, changed that makes you smile?  If the answer is nothing and just the very question drags you down, that’s a pretty good sign that we can do some tapping and do deeper into what message is asking to be heard.

The set-up:

Even though my life has failed this year, and I have NO successes whatsoever, I am open to the idea of loving and accepting myself.