After talking today with a prospective client, I was thinking about how so much of what I do with folks is helping them trust themselves a little bit more … 

Whether it’s a desire to be an awesome mother in an unconventional way or a desire to stop being judgmental or a desire to connect with our spouse or a desire to feel included at a family gathering, we have these internal conflicts about who we are supposed to be and how we are supposed to feel.

Many of my clients are folks who are spiritual seekers who have always felt a little bit different from mainstream but haven’t understood that their way of seeing and being in the world is just as valid and important as everyone else’s.  It’s the Ugly Duckling Story in real life … we don’t fit in with the ducks but think it’s our fault.

In fact it’s nobody’s fault – it’s just that we are swans and until we meet another swan, we always feel defective.

Luckily we don’t need to meet 100 other swans, just one.  

So take a moment and reflect on a time when you felt like the Ugly Duckling – all alone and misunderstood and ugly and not wanted.   Make a note of what felt wrong to you and how you felt different.   Pay attention to how you judge those traits in yourself.  

Tap using the following script or any adaption that works for you .... 

Then we’ll switch to the positive.

Set-Up Phrase: 

Even though something is wrong with me, and I don’t understand what, so it must be my fault, I love and accept myself.

Even though I feel so alone, (What’s wrong with me?),  I’m willing to accept myself even if I’m different.

Even though I just don’t fit anymore, I’m willing to admit that I don’t fit.

The Points:

Eyebrow:  I don’t feel right here.

Side of the Eye:  I don’t fit.

Under the Eye:  Everyone else fits in.

Nose:   What’s wrong with me?

Chin:  Can’t they feel what I feel?

Collarbone:  Don’t they know what I know?

Under the arm:  I hate feeling like the Ugly Duckling.

Head:  I hate being the Ugly Duckling.

Now think of a time when you felt seen and validated and understood, like you’d found your tribe, you’d finally met another Swan.  Make a note of what you had in common and what was being validated.  

Eyebrow:  I can’t believe it.

Side of the Eye:  I’m a Swan!

Under the Eye:  It feels so good.

Nose:  I’ve missed this so much.

Chin:   Now I understand.

Collarbone:  Now I know.

Under the arm:  I do fit.

Head:  I do belong.

Eyebrow:  There is room for me.

Side of the Eye:  I do matter.

Under the Eye:  I am part of the whole.

Nose:   What I value does count.

Chin:  What I care about does matter.

Collarbone:  I’m glad I found my flock.

Under the arm:  It’s okay to be a Swan.

Head:  It’s okay to be Me.

Enjoy.  Let me know how it works for you.   

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