and thanks for our ancestors and families There is an immense family loyalty and love that shows up in our behavior — the system desires to be whole and each of us will do our part to illuminate that wholeness. When we start to look at “undesirable” behavior and see the underlying love that is there, everything changes. When we can look at the family secrets with love, the family system transforms. When we can include those who have been excluded, the energy of love begins to flow freely. When we can accept our family’s fate with love and honor and respect and see the nobility of the past but not despair in the pain, we open ourselves [...] Read more »
Road Block or Sign Post?
Our problems show us what we value. What we are struggling with shows us what is important to us. We all know that the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. One of the biggest limitations in my life has been self-blame; one of the greatest reliefs has been feeling vindicated that what I believe, experience, and even suffer with are all the right path for me. So often I see folks using EFT to “fix themselves” and this fixing assumes that what they are experiencing is wrong or harmful or limiting. What if what’s wrong with us is actually the door to our greatest delight and expansion? What if on the other side of our pain is [...] Read more »
Is it Okay to Want More?
I’ve long been a student of different systems: personality systems, personal growth systems, nutrition and fitness systems, health systems – you get the idea. I feel like I’m always looking for something. I wonder if it’s the search I enjoy or if I really am looking for something. I sometimes fault myself for being naive and thinking that things should feel better. Why can’t I just suck it up and enjoy things the way they are? But then I recognize that in some areas where I was seeking, I finally did find the answer that worked for me. And that’s the key — trusting that you can find the key that works for you, as well as trusting [...] Read more »
Are You Ready?
There are over 200 million blogs in the world so why the heck am I starting another? Good question …. My intention is to connect with like-minded folks and be an inspiration to others in their life journey. There is a group of folks all over the world who came here, to earth, to break some pretty big stuck patterns. We used to feel and think we were alone. We grew up in a huge variety of family situations very commonly with some sort of emotional or sexual abuse. This fine-tuned our empathic and intuitive skills but sometimes left some residual scars. It’s an obvious statement and yet an interesting situation that we have to be human to [...] Read more »
Our deepest desires, our ferocious fears
Welcome friends. I’m so pleased to see folks request my Whispers from the Universe and Guide to Surrogate Tapping. The year I wrote Whispers, I was very called to support, embrace, and encourage others to accept and see themselves as whole. It was a gentle energy I was sharing, loving and nurturing ourselves so we could grow into our power. It was a process I had been working with myself – reparenting myself so that I could step fully into my adult self. Now the energy I am accessing is much more dynamic, dramatic, compelling. I see my clients making radical quantum shifts in their self-perception, awakening to a deep drive and purpose that hadn’t had the space [...] Read more »
Replacing Our To Do list with a To Be list
I am a huge fan of “to do” lists. My lists keep me organized, on task, and able to make sense of a seemingly endless parade of tasks and chores to be completed. So imagine my surprise when I came across the following idea in an article by Alan Cohen. Alan writes in an article called, “What to Ask For”: “How long is your “to do” list? The more things you think of that you have to do, the more things you find to do. Then you end up feeling tired and unfulfilled. Try replacing your “to do” list with a “to be”list.” Once I read Alan’s idea, my whole concept of list-making shifted. I have been studying [...] Read more »
Finding Serenity in the Soapsuds
I do much better away from home. I thrive on being busy and interacting with others, having things to do and places to be. Being home can be challenging for me; I get bored with the housework and find myself restless. And yet I know that if I am truly at peace with myself, then I can be at peace anywhere. I know that my distraction of busyness away from the home is a mask and that my greatest challenge is learning to find peace during the ordinary moments of life. Because of this busyness I have in me, meditation is a great comfort for me and I yet don’t always find the time to make it happen. [...] Read more »
Happy Birthday to My Two Sweethearts
oday two very important members of our family turn one today. They have grown so much in this past year. One year has seen them transition from nursing to learning to eat solid food; from crying to learning how to express their needs; from being all floppy and uncoordinated to learning how to move their bodies with joy and delight. I never thought I’d get past the night wakings, they sure seemed to need a lot of night-time attention. Carrying them both at the same time was tricky, especially when they started getting bigger. It was hard leaving them alone during the night but once they got too big to carry, I had to. I knew they had [...] Read more »
My Alice in Wonderland To-Do List
It’s been years since I’ve read Alice in Wonderland. I remember that when she ate or drank different potions, she either shrank or grew larger in the mysterious world she was exploring. I’ve discovered the same thing happens to me and my day. I can either grow large and my day and my to-do list looks easy or I can grow small and my day and responsibilities look huge, like a giant looming over me. And my magic potions? My magical potions are my emotions. This week was a great example of this for me. I was grumpy. My to-do list looked huge. It felt overwhelming and impossible to accomplish. Washing dishes felt like a chore, doing laundry [...] Read more »