Clients are often surprised when I tell them that I don’t sit and deliberately use EFT on myself.  They imagine that I have a disciplined practice of 30 minutes a day tapping or something like that. In fact, I rarely consciously use EFT.  It’s just part of my life. If I am on the phone and find myself getting wound up, I’ll tap on the collar bone point. If I find myself getting triggered in a conversation, I’ll tap on the points in the moment. Once in a while, I’ll find myself stuck on something and you might find me pacing my bedroom, tapping and talking out loud. Or if I have the sense that something deeper is [...] Read more »

Last week I talked about matching the language of the set-up to your current emotional state. For some folks, saying, “I love and accept myself” feels like complete nonsense. If you are saying the set-up but feel no connection to it, try some alternative language. Notice how I am gently shifting the energy from hate to credit. Even though I have this issue, and I hate myself for it, I give myself permission to hate myself. Even though I have this issue and it feels so engrained in my cells, I have no hope for changing, I give myself permission to have a tiny bit of hope. Even though I have this issue, and I’ve had it for [...] Read more »

The traditional set-up phrase of “Even though I have this issue, I deeply and completely love and accept myself” works wonders in most cases; however one of the creative ways to customize EFT is varying the language used during the set-up tapping. Abraham-Hicks’ fans are very familiar with the concept of an Emotional Guidance Scale – a continuum of emotions ranging from despair to joy. A similar concept applies to the phrase used during the set-up tapping. We can vary the language so that we capture where we are now and move one step up on the scale. The gradients of the scale might look like this: Judgmental of self and closed to this issue being acceptable Wanting [...] Read more »